When you coach another teammate, keep in mind that
what works for you may not work for me.
Let me share an example — a service I offer is coaching people on how to more effectively lead team meetings. Whenever a team is exploring a topic, there comes a time when the facilitator needs to gain everyone’s attention so they can move the process to the next step.
When I’m the facilitator, that’s easy for me to do. I stand-up, raise my hands and say, “Let’s stop for a moment.” That works 95% of the time. If it doesn’t, I say those words louder, sometimes shouting them out. I can’t recall that ever failing to gain everyone’s attention.
I used to think standing up and raising my hands was a powerful method, “a secret,” for gaining everyone’s attention. It works for me. Why shouldn’t it work for everyone?
A decade ago, my colleague Esther Derby quickly dispelled any notion that I had discovered a universal facilitation secret. She told me that that the same method didn’t work for her. She correctly pointed out that it probably worked for me because I am a 6′ 3″, 205 lb (191 Cm, 91Kg) male with a deep, loud voice.
When I coach people about facilitation, I explore with them ways they can gain everyone’s attention. For instance, they might clang a bell, wave a flag or stand on a chair. Sometimes the methods I personally use may work for them, but I assume adjustments are always required.
Consciously knowing more about what you do to produce an effect is vital starting point for transferring what you know. Feedback from others will take you another step towards more conscious knowledge. But keep in mind, what works for you may not work for me.
Poor coaches just tell their teammate how they do things. Great coaches tailor advice so it fits their teammate rather than themselves.
Be a great coach.